It's OK to be You..different from what you are expected to be.

To you, who is struggling to be recognized by someone or some people who matter to you, 

 Dear, it's ok how you are now. You are doing it good, you have cracked a great deal shaping yourself the way your dear ones wanted you to be, you have pushed yourself to be in agreement with something you think of otherwise. You are fantastic, a gem of it's own kind of shine.

 Those times are difficult when you have to explain yourself to people close to you. It's heartbreaking to be misunderstood. Being unable to convey yourself infront of people, you expect you can be an open book, is unbearably painful. But you know, losing yourself to compensate this pain is more heart twitching. 

  Each day, each moment you come across something that impacts you knowingly or unknowingly. The video you see, the message you read, the interaction you have, the songs you listen, each and every action triggers something in you which draws your perspective, that changes you eventually. And surprisingly, this trigger is different for everybody. So, logically each and every person is different. 

    And thus having your life teaching you your kind of lessons must be unique to you. Hence, you being in your own tune composed after living life in your perspective is completely reasonable. You are like a star in the sky along with lacs of other stars, yet having your own twinkling, own brightness. You are different and it's you. So respecting different opinions should be a practice, because being different is natural, not wrongful. And thus, you being not understood is ok,as you are in a different tune than his/her. His or her dictionary is surely different from you, so don't feel burdened, don't torture your emotions. Hence, both sides coming to terms recognizing each other's differences may reduce the undue heartache that one side otherwise suffers. This practice also endangers self ego and so it's hard to practice yet inevitable.

Again, on a larger scale we stay together with family or friends, we live in a society, we work in a particular field, we have our cultural ethics and all these function in a set of codified norms and rules, which are subject to amendments as and when required, for maintaining the harmony. These norms, principles, rules and guidelines should be observed for a peaceful co-existence, for the combined growth and for satisfying the sociological needs. Therefore, it's necessary to draw the balance between 'the weight of the norms on you' and 'your inner voice and values for yourself'. 

Beacause, in those moments when Google can't answer you, books can't teach you, friends and family can't console you, there is this person "You" who speaks to you, understands you, answers you, consoled you, stands for you and it's a forever relationship. So, it's always ok to be different but not ok to lose yourself in the process of shaping for how you are expected to be.